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Our timeline was a bit messed up, but it’s worked for us. He moved in before we started dating (needed a place to stay, I had a couch). We started dating shortly after that. Got engaged about a year...
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ta, what do you think the meaning of ‘with some immediacy’ is? Like, where would you draw the line for an extreme case of a long term engagement?
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Katie, pre-marital counseling doesn’t take a super long time. What sort of marriage-planning would you be doing, out of curiosity? We focused a lot on marriage-planning, but it wasn’t all that time...
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I think the engaged-engaged part just comes when you start planning the wedding. I’ve thought about getting engaged just so people would stop with the questions, but obviously that’s not the best...
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i know a couple who has been engaged for 3 years with no marriage plans in sight. thats odd to me. recently jake and i re-visited the whole getting married thing and i told him i didnt want to become...
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Sorry, but I really don’t think you can say you’re engaged if you’re not actually planning on getting married. People can run their relationships how they want to and define it how they want to, but...
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If people get engaged as a further step in their relationship, but don’t actually intend to marry, do they then have to get “engaged-engaged” when they want to? Of course everyone can define things as...
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Alice, I have a friend that has been engaged for a couple years now, no planning in sight. I think he proposed just to get the girlfriend off his case.
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@Miel, that’s really interesting. People just see engagement and what it means really differently I guess. For me getting engaged means saying “We are spending the rest of our lives together and just...
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I have a friend who got engaged after about 6 months and has now been engaged for about… 6 years?
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It’s nice to read the people that say that 5+ years of dating is not too long for young people. My timeline is about 7 years of dating now before I would like to get engaged with my current boyfriend...
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@LBH, yup I guess we’re middle-aged! We still rip up the town though. Anyhoo, I did get married before, at age 21. We dated for I think 3 years (with a couple breaks in there) before getting engaged....
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This will sound fast but was pretty much the norm for when we got married over 25 years ago. We decided to get married after six months but that was between the two of us. We didn’t tell anyone. Got...
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We were 32/33 when we met: - moved in at 10 months - bought a house together at 1.5 years - Engaged 3 weeks after moving into our house - 7 month engagement – married at 2.25 years I also liked a...
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Yay guys! I love hearing about everyone’s perspectives and experiences. I am so fascinated by the fast-movers, you like absolutely blow my mind. (Not in a judgemental way at ALL, seriously, I think...
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Kate, I feel like when you are middle aged (hope that’s not insulting, I am too!), things progressing a little quicker than normally is fine/normal.
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Moved in after dating and away from all our family and friends: 11 months Got engaged: few months before 3 years Engaged for 16 months before we got married We met when we were 21 and 22, and ended up...
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My husband and I are nuts, so bear that in mind. We were together for two and a half months when we moved in together. We got engaged nine months after our first date. We got married six months after...
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Got engaged after 6 months Wedding will be one year after engagement Moving in about 6 months after getting engaged, 6 months before wedding We were 37 and 41 when we met. No kids and not necessarily...
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Dated for a little over a year before moving in together (I was 23, he was 28), then lived together for 3.75 years before getting engaged.. getting married about 5/6th of a year after that. by time of...
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Agree with theattack that how long you knew the person before starting to date also factors in. If you’ve known each other as friends for a long time, you’ve already learned a lot about each other...
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We dated for just over 4 years before moving in, got engaged 4 months after moving in together, and will be married around the 5.5 year mark (14 month engagement). Only thing I would change is a...
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Peronsonally, I’d want to date someone for 2-3 years before getting engaged. Generally speaking, I think all couples, regardless of age, should wait at least a year before getting engaged. I think the...
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Our timeline: Dated two years Engaged for one year Moved in a few months into the engagement But we were pretty much best friends for 8 years before all of that, so that really changes things. If we...
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As a rule of thumb, I think the phase before engagement (or making a commitment for life, whether with a formal marriage or not) should be the longer, the younger you were when you first started the...
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“I really want to date someone for a very long time (multiple years, maybe like 5 at this point) before I get engaged. But then after I am engaged I can’t see waiting more than a year and a half to...
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I’m not engaged, but have been with my boyfriend for almost 3.5 years. I’m in no rush—like you, I don’t think it’s “long enough” until, like, 5+ years (especially if the two people are in their early...
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Here’s my timeline: Moved in after dating 2.5 years Got engaged around 3.25 years Engaged for about 1.25 years before getting married My husband and I were both 30 when we got married. The only thing...
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Since it is wedding week, and I love hearing from you all… I would love to know (either personal experience or your opinion) how long you dated before engagement, and then how long were you engaged...
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